"People will come to me and say, 'My husband changed accounts.
He's moving money.' That's a sign to me that he's already ready to get out of the marriage and move onto the divorce stage."According to Puhn, this is the most serious sign of all because daydreaming often happens right before the divorce.
Infidelity is an enormous hurdle for a marriage to overcome, but just ending the affair is not enough, says Kaye.
For a marriage to fully get past adultery, the unfaithful half of the couple cannot maintain a "friendship" with the former lover.
The vast majority of marriage advice books are about saving the union, but sometimes it's wise to know when to let go.
When that's gone—when one partner consistently feels dismissed, rejected, and condescended to (and the other partner doesn't see it or refuses to talk through it), you're in a bad place.
No matter what he or she says about the innocence of such a relationship, "nothing good can come out of it," notes Kaye.
A major part of marriage involves trying to fulfill your partner's needs while also making sure your own needs are met.
"Look, there's a certain amount of work that a person has to do but if you see it's becoming more and more and more, and it continues to increase, especially over the holidays, that's called distancing," said Cardi.
When one partner is unwilling to spend any time for personal time for the two of you, she says, you have a problem.