Staying out of my head and remaining true to my feelings is my best defense.So I gave my thoughts a rest and opted out of our brief relationship based entirely on my feelings. But I need to court, because that's when it's still possible to see the other person without rose-colored glasses, and determine whether or not the relationship has legs.17-18 School Events Calendar2017-18 District Calendar About The School Class Schedule Code of Discipline Forms Foster Care Point of Contact Handbook Highlights Latest News Library Lunch Program Parent Note Excuse Form Principal's Corner Required Health Forms Returning Student Registration Link School Publications Teacher's Websites Spotlight Week at a Glance DCS is committed to providing a work environment that is free of discrimination.It is the policy of DCS that all applicants and employees are entitled to equal employment opportunity regardless of race, color, religion or creed, gender (includes pregnancy or related medical conditions), national origin, age, disability, veteran status or other protected characteristics as required by local, state and federal law. I've received responses from women who insist they've met their true love and are dating him exclusively, but are open to friendship.I have enough friends already, and I find it curious that a woman who has found the love of her life still posts her profile online.My old demon, the need to feel loved, had been activated.I've defeated this pesky nemesis, but he's resilient.
In truth, falling in love is hard to resist in midlife.Rejections remind me that no one is everyone's cup of tea. Online dating profiles don't really explain a person, and chemistry requires a face-to-face, so online dating has its limitations.Then there's the issue of dating etiquette, which doesn't appear to exist at all, and since there aren't any rules, dating behavior ranges from polite to rude.I felt foolish for having gone off to the races so quickly.Sure, she had pushed for more intimacy, but I didn't have to acquiesce.Then she tried to convince me that my feelings weren't valid.Discounting, minimizing or judging another person's feelings is insulting and indicates a total lack of resolution skills. That we hadn't become sexual yet made ending our brief relationship uncomfortable, but uncomplicated.For me, this isn't the time for 60s casual morality, and bouncing back from a failed relationship is too painful to just go with the flow.After a half-dozen dates, I began noticing the cracks in our relationship, and some were too big to paint over.This became clear when a few weeks into the relationship, she wanted to step it up to the next level -- commitment -- and I backed off.I was anxious in part because a few weeks just aren't enough for me to feel trusting.