After I was sure enough that the people at the restaurant were there for speed dating, I rose from the bar, took a seat on the ladies’ side of the tables, and waited for my first prospective match made in heaven. Women sit on one side of the table while men rotate from seat to seat in front of them. After five minutes, the men move to the next seat, and so on.
After every “date,” you write down that person’s name on the card and rank them based on how likely you’d be to date them again.
At the end of the event, you pick the top people you were interested in and return the card.
Should there be any mutual matches, the organizers of the event will put you two in touch.
Dating without the booze and the bullshit." "Unquestionably the best dating event I have ever attended. Tantra Speed Date is a fresh new take on speed dating which brings in connection practices from various disciplines (such as Tantra, meditation, partner yoga, actor's improv, eye gazing, dance).
Participants form two circles facing each other and share a few moments of guided connection, before rotating to their next date.
And worse comes to worst, if it’s awful, you know that in five minutes, it will all be over -- unlike that horrific Tinder date you went on last week that lasted an hour and a half because you were too polite to leave. With Speed NY Dating, people are limited to the age bracket 24 to 38.
This event is for single professionals from the NJ/Fort Lee area.Everyone was gainfully employed, sociable (mostly), and somewhat attractive (again, mostly).The best part is that, drastically unlike Tinder, everyone there was actually looking for a relationship, or at the very least a second date.You wouldn’t get that at speed dating in Kansas, and certainly not at a bar in Bushwick.As New Yorkers, we’re constantly complaining that a city with over 8 million people can feel so ridiculously lonely.Inside, it looked more or less like a restaurant preparing itself for regular dinner service (dim lighting, candlelit tables), rather than the morose, clinical vision I had concocted of name tags, clipboards, and other trappings of business conferences.People filed in one at a time and checked in with the hostess, who cleared their name from a list and handed them a card for keeping track of dates that night.There was also the man (whose job I can’t remember) who openly admitted that he loved being able to talk people into paying more money for things that he knew they didn’t actually need. I didn’t end up meeting anyone special at speed dating, but I still felt like I’d tapped into this hidden sector of the NYC dating world.What makes speed dating in New York so interesting is part of what makes New York so interesting to begin with -- you’re able to meet people from all over the world, from different backgrounds, with all different kinds of careers, interests, and experiences (and best of all, they’re all right there, in one room, in front of you).Of course there were a few oddballs, like the guy who was obsessed with his karate prowess and kept insinuating that his skills would come in handy to protect me on our pending second date.But that’s how it is in any social/dating situation, and I’m sure there’s a Pink Power Ranger out there who would swoon over his high kick.