Internationally Acclaimed Life Strategist Tanja Diamond says, "It's very important to set priorities first, and boundaries as a close second." Don't worry about how others date, but focus on what you feel comfortable with.If your rule has always been that you don't kiss on the first date, then don't worry about whether it's "old school." Age should, at the very least, earn you the right to set some comfortable boundaries.Some seniors enjoy the structure of offline senior dating services where the matchmakers personally select people for you to meet.These services may also plan mixers or other social events that allow you to meet a variety of people at once.But just because young people are grossed out by the thought of old people doing it, doesn't mean STIs are.In fact, according to the CDC, STI rates among the elderly are ballooning, with over 19,000 cases of chlamydia in 2010 among the 45-to-64-year-old set compared with less than 7,000 in 2000. However, it may seem even more stressful if you've been out of the dating scene for a long time.
They enjoyed the fruits of what I think of as “the golden age of sex” (lots of sexual exploration coupled with no fatal diseases).
Another medical doctor colleague (in his late fifties) has this observation framed on his office wall, summarizing the cycle of life: Life is graded on a curve.
Safer Sex4Seniors.org, "an independent collective of professional sexuality educators, researchers, authors, trainers, counselors, and therapists," recognizes that being retired means more time for bumping wrinkles with senior strange.
While these organizations charge for services and events, many individuals consider the process safe and efficient.
Other offline suggestions, Masini says, include the common areas of medical buildings, local farmers' markets or even at a local community college when auditing or taking a course on a subject of mutual interest. Keep in mind that if you are not comfortable going out alone with someone, going in a group or double dating can take a lot of pressure off of the situation.