“Every time I’ve ever told the story, I am compelled to tell people how seductive I was,” he told the writer.
At the time of the affair, he said, “I would’ve told you that relationship was completely consensual.
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When you’re a teen, entering into a relationship with an older gay man can be a protective measure.Likewise, there are elements to the stories of Spacey’s accusers that I believe warrant discussion beyond simple condemnation for the actor.How do gay culture and society at large feel about the boys, teens and men who pine for older lovers?But there are also wistful, fantastical elements to the movie which, it’s worth noting, was based on a book written by a straight man and cast with straight leads.It also doesn’t fully capture some of the messy realities — like negotiations of power or consent — that are sometimes present in older-younger gay relationships.I would have said, ‘Yeah, I’m 14, but I’m really smart. And it’s normal that a 25-year-old would want me to be their boyfriend because I’m a grownup.’”Spacey abused his position of power over this man for sexual gratification — just as he did with the actor Anthony Rapp and what seems like countless others.But other aspects of their relationship — which felt consensual at the time, but in hindsight wasn’t — are less clear-cut.“He had a huge impact on how I perceived myself and my sexuality and what life could be like outside of where I was, which was a very repressed high school existence.”“Especially if you’re not in a heavily populated metropolitan area, I guess in some ways it’s more understandable if you end up hooking up with someone 20 or 30 years your senior,” he adds.“I wasn’t necessarily seeking older people, but that was what was available to me at the time.”It wasn’t until recently that David began to question whether the relationship was wholly consensual.The site asks interested clients to simply text or call (914) 233-3703. Alex Jung that whenever he would describe his sexual relationship with Spacey to friends, he would include a caveat.