My friends in the US had warned me that online dating is a nightmare. A site for only good-looking people, at least I’d be able to look at the guy, but I was raw and afraid of rejection. There is a French version, but I wasn’t looking for a father for future children and didn’t want to limit myself.
Laws in France now state that spouses owe each other mutual respect, fidelity, and help.I met a scientist from the Pasteur Institute who was absolutely fascinating, but stoned out of his gourd and five years younger than he had claimed.I met a congressman who had been a doctor before joining politics and still couldn’t figure out how his last girlfriend had gotten pregnant, making him the 55-year old dad of an infant.Still, studies are showing that one third of married men in the U. are frequenting Internet dating sites; some to look, and others to get emotionally or physically involved. K., Facebook was named in one third of divorce filings.Where do we draw the line between innocent flirting and a violation of a marriage commitment?After 20 years of happily ever after, my husband awoke one morning in our Paris apartment a changed man, a man in a midlife crisis. We already had two kids and I was the other side of 40. He wanted to work endless hours, have a wife without children, hang with 30-year olds.I didn’t meet the American expat from Neuilly who called saying he’d be there an hour early, asking if I minded joining him so we’d have more time together…And oh, by the way, he’d brought along his 7-year old daughter and 5-year old son. There was an Eastern European Mafioso who showed up in a huge, black Mercedes, his biceps larger than my thighs, followed by a communist who hated anyone with money and was horrified by my Burberry trench.Apparently during the course of the French couple's marriage, the wife was chatting with men on a Belgium-based social network and singles site called "Netlog" and sent intimate photos to some of the men she was communicating with. Whether it's financial problems, reduced or non-existent sex, different opinions on how to raise children or more, many of these issues can lead to depression, curiosity to find out if the grass is greener elsewhere, and eventually divorce.Le Figaro, a French newspaper reports that just seeking an extra-martial relationship was offensive behavior towards the husband and ruled that the divorce was the sole fault of the wife. In the case of this couple, "Natalie" and "Bruno," she claimed she was searching online because she was depressed.