But let’s not create the impression that life begins when you get married and everything’s on hold till then.And let’s not allow anyone to suggest that being single is second class.Most churches are not awash with young eligible men. There’s a cost to staying and contributing to the gospel work of smaller churches.The bigger London churches look very attractive to a single 20 something!
So technically dating a non-Christian is not a sin. But we mustn’t be naïve about where these relationships are going.
They take on an an unbelieving boyfriend in the hope that he’ll respond to the gospel and become an eligible option for marriage. And it gives them sufficient reason to think that they might be able to repeat it. Singleness is not inherently worse than marriage The Bible teaches that both marriage and singleness have a central part to play in God’s purposes. He said that some will remain unmarried because they were born unable to marry, some will have singleness forced upon them by circumstances and still others will renounce marriage for the sake of the Kingdom [Matthew 19]. But the point is that being single isn’t the end of the world, or the end of a life. The Old Testament didn’t permit marriage with people who wern’t part of the old covenant people of God.
Most people know at least one person who did this for whom it all worked out brilliantly. But no one really talks about the marriages that began to resemble car crashes. How do we approach what’s a matter of great sensitivity? The New Testament applies the same standards to the new covenant people of God. The believer and the unbeliever don’t share the same spiritual status, they don’t share the same spiritual priorities and they don’t share the same spiritual destination.
She has opportunities for ministry and undivided devotion to the Lord not enjoyed by those who are married.
In our churches those who are single perform much of the influential ministry.