Tiffiny Carlson calls this “dropping the D-bomb.” Carlson, a writer who uses a wheelchair due to spinal cord injury, has been online dating since 1998.“I always disclose my disability right away in my profile and photos,” she says via email.But, for Lynne, who was diagnosed with depression, anxiety and other mental disorders at 19, dating invariably ends in disaster.But about a month ago, Lynne began seeing a 53-year-old man she met through a dating Web site designed specifically for people with mental illness.Wheelchair users may only post photos that show their bodies from the waist up, or people with visual impairments may not mention their guide dogs and white canes in bios.Only when they schedule an in-person date with someone do they mention their disability.If you don’t have a disability, you’re unlikely to know they exist.But if you do have a disability, try sifting through the literally hundreds of messages you receive from people who aren’t interested in making a good first impression.
"We've been seeing quite a bit of each other," Lynne said.
Stephanie Woodward, a 26-year-old lawyer with spina bifida, recently turned to online dating as a fun and cheap way to explore her new city.
However, the online reactions from men to photos of her using a wheelchair have been nothing more than a “shitshow,” she says.
But after navigating the minefield of online dating, this independent and successful young woman has begun to suspect that walking, even if it means physical discomfort, might make her love life go more smoothly.
Because of disability trolling, some people may hesitate to disclose their differences right away.