Emotionally unavailable men are not just the handsome, superficial charmers.
They come in all looks, shapes, and personality types.
Says writer Sile Walsh for , “Being emotionally available is not that easy for any of us.And for a man in a society where we give our such mixed messages, it’s no surprise that both the people asking men to be emotionally available and the men who are trying to achieve it are confused.My male clients desperately want to connect with friends, lovers, and family in a very real way.Unfortunately, it wasn't until 20 years into their marriage with several children, that Laura finally realized Jason was simply a shallow pool. He was never going to be emotionally intimate, vulnerable, and connected in the way she needed him to be. When you're in a romantic relationship, you expect it to deepen over time.You expect your partner to grow closer and closer emotionally, so you create a “couple bubble” of intimacy between you.He is uncomfortable talking about his true feelings of love, pain, shame, guilt or any other feeling that might make him appear “weak” and vulnerable.He has learned to ignore and deny his negative emotions in particular, and has become emotionally “color blind.” He has a protective wall around his emotions and can get angry, confused, or defensive if you try to penetrate it.Whether it's intentional or not, emotional unavailability if a form of emotional abuse.For the woman involved with an emotionally unavailable man, it feels as though you're being deprived of the one thing you need most in a relationship — real love.When she looked into his eyes, wanting to communicate the depth of her feelings without blurting them out, Jason always looked away uncomfortably.After six months, he still hadn't said, “I love you,” or given her much of a hint about his feelings for her — except that he continued to see her, so that was something, right?